What Men Want in a Relationship But Don't Ask

How would you feel to know precisely what men want in a relationship but don't ask?

Like it or not men are usually egoistic. They expect to be treated in a certain way. Yet, they hardly voice some of these expectations. 

It's almost as if they expect you to know by default. Truth is,
this can be trickier than you would like to think. 

So, in this post we'll find a way to get into the thinking faculty of men. And this should help you see a remarkable improvement in your relationship - once you apply them.

Note: Inspiration for this post was picked from a post titled how to know he only wants a casual relationship. It was really an interesting read.

In the meantime, let's get going...

1. Support for his adventures

First off, what men want in a relationship that they don't normally ask from you is support. Men are adventurous and daring in nature. They feel fulfilled for overcoming challenges and would occasionally put themselves up for it. 

This could be in business, sport or academia. In such attempts they need your support and encouragement and nothing else. If your support is missing or you raise unnecessary criticism and objection to the adventure, they become demotivated. 

Sadly, most men will harbor their displeasure against you. Remember, they won't demand  your support verbally, but they expect to have it. 

2. Men won't ask for your respect

Men want respect from virtually everyone, more so their partner. In fact, a lot of research work has supported this notion. Interestingly, the only time they'll verbally ask for respect is during heated argument. 

What men want in a relationship also has to do with respect.  

Respect for privacy and respect for his friends and family matter to him. Be mindful of your choice of words. Understand his personality and his definition of respect. This will help you serve him well. 

 3. Men won't ask for your appreciation 

Men want to be appreciated on many things even in the event that they fall short. Has he ever come home with a dress with a color not your favorite?  Have you had the cause to complain about  an item he bought that was expensive in your view? 

This is what I'm talking about. 

Men want to be applauded for the act, not the substance. Not showing appreciation really puts them off. That's just not what men want in a relationship.

You should be clever not to discourage him on his gesture. You can find an appropriate time to register your suggestion in the event where his gesture did not please you. Never at the moment that he expects some appreciation for his effort.

 4. Issues with their mood

It gets to a point where any little obstruction could be more annoying than you may want to think. Project deadline may be catching up with him, someone may have gotten on his nerves at the workplace. 

It may simply be mood-swing that you need to notice. In all these, he may be hesitant to be straight forward with you. Yet, he expects you to understand his mood and back off.

5. What men want in a relationship that they don't also ask include sex

Men want you to initiate sex - sometimes!

So you would agree that for most relationships men initiate sexual encounters. It's almost as if it's the preserve for them. You need to understand that there are instances where they find it difficult to muster the courage to make the move. 

And this happens regardless of their burning desire for sex. In other words, they sometimes want you to initiate sex but will hardly voice it.

There you have it...

Hopefully you've been able to gather tips about what men want in a relationship that they tend to be silent about. 

Some of these tips should help make your relationship better. 

Identify where you fall short and make the necessary corrections. If you begin to do them, you'll be making him happy. And this could lead to a deepening of his love for you. 

Have fun!

Before you leave, let me recommend a review of Language of Desire program by Felicity Keith for you. It's an eyeopener to make a man obsessed with you.